miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…

My negative emotions are like road signs on a highway informing me that I have made a wrong turn somewhere along my journey. I therefore bless them for their wise and enlightened guidance, and redirect myself towards the direction of my choosing. 



miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…

Whatever it is that is now presenting itself as part of my creation, I own it, claim it, accept it, bless it and be thankful for it.


miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…

I always show respect for the people I interact with, always taking into consideration their wants, needs and desires, while expressing my sincere gratitude for their company.

miWisdom today… The vast majority of people have a natural tendency to overestimate their time, work, energy, decisions and actions. This is known as the Jellybean principle, which is the act of being incapable of estimating correctly how many colored Jellybeans are in the jar.  

Back in high school there was always someone organizing a Jellybean counting competition of some sorts each year. They would get hold of the largest glass jar or container they could find, and would “stuff” it with as many jellybeans as was humanly possible. Then, one-by-one each student would attempt to guess how many Jellybeans were enclosed within the jar. I was intrigued as to how students would go about estimating the number of Jellybeans that were in the jar. 

  • Would they try to calculate it mathematically based on the size of each jellybean and the dimensions of the glass jar?
  • Would they just attempt to “guestimate” how many jellybeans would fit in a jar of that size?
  • Or would they go to extra lengths and attempt to replicate my jellybean competition by purchasing their own jellybeans and jar?

The methods and ways these students used were as varying as their jellybean estimates. Yet, one interesting factor came out of this competition. This one factor in many ways explains how people think and how they go about their daily lives and decisions.

What I found was that 77% of entries that I received overestimated the jellybean count within the jar, and only 23% underestimated it. Given these results; what do they teach us about human nature?

People naturally have a tendency to overestimate their daily decisions and actions. They overestimate:

  • Time – the time it will take them to complete a task or project
  • Energy – the energy they have to undertake a certain activity
  • Work – the amount of work they have to do within a specific time frame
  • Decisions – the impact that their decisions will have on others, themselves and life
  • Actions – the impact that their actions will have on others, themselves and life

Of course, not everyone overestimates the above points. Yet, based on the Jellybean Principle most people do have a habit and tendency towards making these kinds of decision and actions – and this is what leads to much hardship and disappointment in life.

People naturally tend to overestimate because they simply do not have enough information or experience within a specific field or area to make a more accurate estimate of what it would take to accomplish a certain task. They will look at a task and will only see it from the surface, from an outsider’s perspective. And it’s from this perspective that they will base their decisions. 

It’s much like looking at a box that has wrapping all over it. On the surface, everyone knows that it’s a box, and that to open a box it takes certain actions and tools. However, what many of us fail to understand is that what we see on the surface may not be quite what we will experience during the process and act of opening the box. We simply fail to ask ourselves the right questions, or fail to garner the necessary foresight in order to fully understand and comprehend the time, energy, and work it will take to accomplish each task. This lack of foresight is what leads to disappointment and potentially low levels of self-esteem.

Before you begin a new and unfamiliar task, you might like to ask yourself the following questions:

  • What aspects of this task am I confident I can accomplish successfully without any outside assistance?
  • What aspects of this task am I not familiar with?
  • How can I go about becoming familiar and confident with these aspects?
  • What if what I thought I knew wasn’t true at all? How can I verify that my knowledge and experience is adequate in accomplishing this task successfully?
  • Do I understand that what might have worked in the past may not in fact work as planned today? How can I prepare for this possibility?
  • What questions must I ask myself throughout this task to ensure that I stay on track and within the timeframe I have allocated?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

miWisdom today… When perceptively negative circumstances befall people, they will usually tend to think the very worst of their predicament. Even if this person talks positively and optimistically about their situation to others, internally, they are expecting and preparing themselves mentally for the very worst end result. Since our expectations guide our decisions, direction and actions, we will therefore tend to realize our expectations in the real world more often than not.

How is it that our expectations tend to create our reality?

It has to do with our thought patterns and the emotions that we experience on a daily basis. Simply put; the direction of your thoughts influences what you are or are not able to perceive within your present environment. If you are thinking negatively you will tend to see negative people, events, problems and circumstances around you. On the other hand, if you are thinking positively, you will tend to see opportunities abound, that may well assist you in moving past your present reality of problems and obstacles. From here we come to understand that what we perceive externally will directly influence the decisions that we will make in the present moment. These decisions are obviously based on our perceptive filters which come directly from our thoughts and emotions.

Finally, we undertake our plan of action based on these filtered decisions, which will more times than not lead us in the direction of our original thoughts – or in other words, lead us in the direction of our expectations.

To avoid the Expectations Trap, you may find it helpful to ask yourself the following set of questions:

  • What is the real issue here?
  • How best can I define the challenges, obstacles or problems I am currently facing?
  • As I do an internal check of my thoughts and emotions, what future expectations am I currently in the process of creating within the recesses of my mind?
  • Based on these expectations, how am I currently filtering my reality?
  • If my end goal is to look for solutions and opportunities; does my current filter of reality help or hinder me in this process?
  • How must I begin to process my thoughts in order to allow myself to begin opening up my perceptive channels to potential solutions and opportunities?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.


miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…

When an apparent problem arises, I center myself and relax. I then patiently propose a question to my higher self and thank it for providing me with a solution. I then let go and partake in something that is fun, pleasant and relaxing; fully knowing that my question will soon be answered when I least expect it.


miWisdom Empowering Thought & Reflection…

Whenever I desire love, I first search for it within myself.