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miWidsom today… In times of crisis or when absorbing high doses of stress, you must at the very least appear to be under emotional control, otherwise other people will tend to lose confidence and faith in your abilities. This is especially important if other people are looking up to you or you are seeking to influence others through your behaviors, decisions or actions.

At times of great stress or hardship it is very easy for the human mind to fall prey to negative emotions that can sap one’s energy and make one lose focus of one’s main goals and objectives. During these times people tend to make the worst out of every situation. They tend to filter all events in a very dark and gloomy manner. Hope appears to be lost, they have no idea what to do next, and the resulting effect is that they lose control over their emotions.

Our emotions are like a balance bar of control, they keep us steady and centered even during times of crisis; as long as we are proactively guiding our emotions in a manner that keeps us on target towards our goals and objectives. However, if we suddenly begin to react emotionally to other people, events or circumstances, that is when the balance between our emotions and the control bar is broken. Because we are emotional creatures, we are simply unable to maintain control over something external if internally we are unbalanced and falling apart.

The key towards gaining back emotional control begins on the outside. One must first appear to others as though one is in full emotional control over oneself. This will give other people confidence in your ability to get the job done. This is especially important when you are in a leadership or management position within a company, organization, club or family. The appearance of control is the critical first step towards regaining your balance. When others see that you are not phased by your predicament, they will likewise maintain their poise and will better be able to assist you in this time of need.

Once you have established external emotional balance, you can now move onto the next step which is centering yourself internally. To do this one must learn to better understand oneself as well as the events surrounding one’s situation. The following set of questions may assist you to regain back the balance in your life while focusing you back on your most important goals and objectives:

  • Why am I feeling overwhelmed and stressed at this very moment? – You are defining the problem.
  • What external factors, people or events do I believe are causing this? – You are defining the cause.
  • How specifically is all of this making me feel? – You are defining your emotional state.
  • How do I normally react emotionally to these types of people, events or circumstances? – You are defining your habits.
  • Given my outcomes and goals, what emotions would be most suitable and appropriate to utilize in this situation?
  • How will I gain from experiencing and using these positive emotions?
  • How do I now choose to act proactively in response to these people, events or circumstances?
  • What strategies can I consistently use to ensure that I stay in this emotional proactive state?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… Holding onto hope is never stupid no matter what anyone else tells you. Hope is like a womb that slowly but surely nurtures a belief into the world. It may take several months or years, but as long as the hope is there, and a will to fight for what one wants most persists, the belief will eventually come through into this world and will likewise propel your hopes into fruition.

  • What is it that I hope will happen?
  • What small steps can I take every single day to bring this hope into fruition sometime in the future?
  • Who can support, assist and guide me along my journey?

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miWisdom today… Given time and overwhelming circumstances, people eventually resign to their fate, give up on themselves and begin to accept the mediocrities of life without further questions. Unable to break free, they learn to settle down in a very unhappy and depressing world.

  • Have I settled for mediocrity, or am I still searching for solutions that will allow me to climb out of my depths?
  • Do I look for all the problems in my life, or do I focus on opportunities that will allow me to move forward?

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miWisdom today… It is because people are not strong enough emotionally when dealing with circumstances that so called negative events befall them.

  • How can I become more emotionally resilient in the face of adversity?
  • What simple and effective strategies could I use in the future?

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