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miWisdom today… One mustn’t reveal what one has learnt or discovered about another person if one is still uncertain about this person’s motives and intentions. Instead, one must buy more time and act as though one is not aware of this new found information.

First, take your time to really get to know this person in a variety of different situations and environments. When people are not under stress or difficulty they can easily deceive and convince others of their deceptive ways. However, put them into a situation where they are pulled outside of their comfort zone, or thrown into an environment that isn’t familiar to them; and this person’s true colours may well come to the forefront.

  • How best can I take this person out of their comfort zone?
  • What environment could potentially bring out their true colours?
  • How are they different within this new environment or situation?
  • How are they different under these awkward and stressful situations?
  • Does this difference in behaviour provide me any clues as to their true intentions and character?

Secondly, you can pick up subtle details and critical information about other people by observing how they interact with others within their social circle and outside of it.

  • What does this person say, and how do they behave in the presence of others?
  • Do they act any differently in the presence of these people than they do with me?
  • Does this person talk about others behind their back?
  • Do they speak kind words of others, or do their words put people down?
  • What intention do they have while speaking these words? What impression do they seek to make on me?
  • What do others say about this person?
  • How do others speak about them? (tone of voice, sarcasm, etc)
  • What general impressions do people have of this person? Both new acquaintances and old friends?
  • What does all of this tell me about this person’s motives, intentions and character?
  • So the question remains… Should I trust them or should I not?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… To really get an accurate insight into people’s motives, one must pay close attention not to their visible actions, words or behaviours, but rather to their unconscious actions, words and behaviours.

  • I hear the person talking, but what are they really saying?
  • What is the underlying meaning and intention behind these words?
  • I see what this person is doing, but what do the subtle movements of their body really mean?
  • Are there any inconsistencies between their bodily movements and the words they use?
  • If there are inconsistencies, what do they really mean?

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miWisdom today… One occasionally is left with no option but to bend the truth at times in order to protect others from potential harm.

  • If I am to be completely honest and upfront with this person how will it effect them mentally, emotionally and physically?
  • Is this the right time to reveal the truth, or should I wait for a better moment?
  • How will they behave if they learn the truth, and could this potentially harm them in any way?
  • How can I reveal the truth in a manner that will be easy to accept and understand?

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miWisdom today… When it appears as though you have been suddenly caught in the act (any type of act will do), and the other person seems to know what you are up to, it is not yet time to throw in the towel. Instead go along with what the other person is assuming and slowly but surely twist the events in a completely new and unexpected direction so much so that the other person will walk away with a silly look on their face for ever having doubted you.

  • How can I bend the circumstances of this event in such a way that will successfully cover my tracks?
  • What alternative story can I create that will convince this person otherwise?

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Denying the Truth

miWisdom today… If people have a hidden agenda, they will deny the truth despite evidence to the contrary.

  • What is this person trying to hide from me?

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Bending the Truth

miWisdom today… People say things that aren’t true in order to initially sway you in one direction or another. Once you have made a commitment, it becomes more difficult for you to backaway from the decision even though alternative information has now been presented to you.

  • Does this person have a hidden agenda?
  • What exactly is this person trying to get me to commit to?
  • Are they revealing the entire truth, or is the more to this story?

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