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miWisdom today… One mustn’t reveal what one has learnt or discovered about another person if one is still uncertain about this person’s motives and intentions. Instead, one must buy more time and act as though one is not aware of this new found information.

First, take your time to really get to know this person in a variety of different situations and environments. When people are not under stress or difficulty they can easily deceive and convince others of their deceptive ways. However, put them into a situation where they are pulled outside of their comfort zone, or thrown into an environment that isn’t familiar to them; and this person’s true colours may well come to the forefront.

  • How best can I take this person out of their comfort zone?
  • What environment could potentially bring out their true colours?
  • How are they different within this new environment or situation?
  • How are they different under these awkward and stressful situations?
  • Does this difference in behaviour provide me any clues as to their true intentions and character?

Secondly, you can pick up subtle details and critical information about other people by observing how they interact with others within their social circle and outside of it.

  • What does this person say, and how do they behave in the presence of others?
  • Do they act any differently in the presence of these people than they do with me?
  • Does this person talk about others behind their back?
  • Do they speak kind words of others, or do their words put people down?
  • What intention do they have while speaking these words? What impression do they seek to make on me?
  • What do others say about this person?
  • How do others speak about them? (tone of voice, sarcasm, etc)
  • What general impressions do people have of this person? Both new acquaintances and old friends?
  • What does all of this tell me about this person’s motives, intentions and character?
  • So the question remains… Should I trust them or should I not?

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miWisdom today… Building strong relationships with others all rests upon the finer details. It is all about knowing a matrix of interesting habits, hobbies, likes, values, beliefs and ideas about the other person which usually determines the strength of your relationship with them. By knowing and understanding these intricacies you will not only be a greater influential force in their lives, but will also build stronger and longer lasting emotional foundations that can potentially last a lifetime.

  • What do I really know about this person?
  • Do I know this person’s beliefs, values, hobbies, interests, small unconscious habits, or their ideas about themselves, others and the world?
  • How could I get to know them at an even deeper level of understanding?
  • How can I use what I know about them to help influence them in the right direction?

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miWisdom today… To really get an accurate insight into people’s motives, one must pay close attention not to their visible actions, words or behaviours, but rather to their unconscious actions, words and behaviours.

  • I hear the person talking, but what are they really saying?
  • What is the underlying meaning and intention behind these words?
  • I see what this person is doing, but what do the subtle movements of their body really mean?
  • Are there any inconsistencies between their bodily movements and the words they use?
  • If there are inconsistencies, what do they really mean?

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miWisdom today… One must always look beneath the surface of all events one encounters, being observant of strange oddities and other inconsistencies that are riddled with circumstance or people’s behaviour. By being aware, one will learn to understand life at a higher level, and will be better able to make more insightful decisions as one progresses along one’s journey.

  • Is this all there is, or is there something more here under the surface that cannot be easily spotted?
  • What is unusual about this that I hadn’t noticed before?

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miWisdom today… Good fortune doesn’t always lead to a better life, nor does bad luck lead to a life of despair, suffering and anguish. It is not what happens to us but rather what we do with circumstances that makes all the difference in the end.

  • This seems like bad luck on the surface, however, what can I learn from it that will allow me to make better decisions in the future?
  • What possible hidden opportunities have now opened up for me because of this unfortunate incident?
  • What is a better way of looking at this situation that I haven’t noticed before?

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miWisdom today… How something is written and what it intrinsically means can be at two opposite ends of the pole. Therefore, to sometimes make sense of the obvious one must dig a little deeper and question the content of the material from different angles and perspectives.

  • What is the surface meaning of this writing?
  • What was the person trying to get across to their readers?
  • What motivated them to write about this in such a manner and style?
  • What hidden meaning (if any) can I unearth from this material that isn’t present on the surface?

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miWisdom today… In essence (however, not under all circumstances), people don’t change. Therefore if you couldn’t trust someone in the past, than you must be very wary and careful if trusting them in the present despite any apparent good deeds they may have contributed in bringing your way. Watch out for their hidden agenda.

  • How has this person changed that would justify giving them my trust?
  • Do they have a hidden agenda for wanting to gain back my trust? What could it be?

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