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imagemiWisdom today… Life doesn’t give you what you ask for, it rather provides you with the opportunities to potentially receive these things.

No matter what your religious or spiritual beliefs are, one thing is certain; God / The Universe does not play favorites. Why should God give one man a life of luxury, health and success while another suffers from poverty and illness? The bottom line is that we are what we are based on how and what we think about throughout our daily lives. The hard fact is that what we ask or wish for on a daily basis will not come to fruition if we do nothing about it.

There are so many of us out there who rely on God or an Infinite Power to heal them, to make them rich, and to make their dreams come true. What these people fail to understand is that God will not fulfill their desires. It is rather up to the person asking for these things to keep an eye out for opportunities coming their way that may possibly enable them to fulfill their needs and wants.

There is an old tale about a man caught in a flood asking God for help.

A nearby river’s banks overflow and an old man finds himself caught in a flood. In order to avoid the water he climbs up to the roof of his home and prays for God to rescue him in his time of need. Shortly after his prayer, a lady in a row boat comes across the man sitting on his roof. She asks him to come aboard so that she can take him to safety. However, the old man insists that he will be fine, and that God will save him and keep him from harm.

Less than an hour later the rising water has almost reached the rooftop of the old man’s home. At this time a rescue boat approaches the old man and asks him to come on board so that they can take him to safety. The stubborn old man reassures the life rescue team that he will be fine as God will surely save him. The boat leaves, leaving the old man sitting and praying on his rooftop once again.

Less than a half hour later the old man’s feet are now standing in a stream of water that continues to rise rapidly. All of a sudden a helicopter comes out of nowhere and hurtles down a folding ladder to the old man below. However, the old man rejects this final rescue attempt saying that God will save him. The rescue team doesn’t have time to argue with the stubborn old man and politely inform him bluntly that if he doesn’t grab hold of the rescue ladder that he will be swept away by the rising current and will likely drown. The old man looks up at the helicopter, thanks them for their help and kneels down to pray.

Moments later the old man is swept away by the current and meets his untimely death.

The old man is brought to the pearly gates of heaven where God welcomes him with open arms. Although glad to be in heaven, the old man is perplexed and confused as to why God did not help him in his time of need. And so he approaches and asks God for an explanation.

“Why did you not save me in my greatest time of need?” says the old man.

God looks down upon him with kind eyes and says, “My dear child, whatever you have asked for have I not given to you? You asked to be taken to safety and so I obliged by sending you 2 boats and a helicopter. What you do with what I provide is not in my hands. I can only provide you with the opportunities to fulfill your wants and desires. What you do with those opportunities when they come your way is completely up to you.”

The old man looked down upon his feet, a little ashamed of these hasty decisions. However, he finally understood the true and real power of prayer.

It is also important to consider that opportunities can and do at times come disguised as problems. And it is because we perceive them as being problems that we fail to take advantage of the good things that come our way everyday. In fact problems are there to help us grow, and to assist us to expand our awareness allowing for the fulfillment of our ever growing and expanding potential.

When it comes to so called problems; what you see isn’t always what you get.

There is an old saying which reminds us that we don’t get what we ask for but rather what we deserve. It simply guides us to an understanding that no matter what problems or opportunities we are faced with, we will end up getting what we deserve based on the decisions made in the moment.

Finally, opportunities / problems are like boomerangs that will tend to come back again and again in different ways, shapes and forms up until the moment we learn, grow and make use of them, thusly allowing us to fulfill the deepest wants and desires we have been longing for all this time.

The next time you are faced with a problem (disguised as an opportunity), you might find it helpful to ask yourself the following sets of questions:

  • How can I see this problem as an opportunity that will move me forward and past my current predicament?
  • What does this problem have to teach me about my life, myself and others?
  • How can I best take advantage of this problem and turn it into an opportunity to move me forward?
  • What is it exactly that this problem is hinting at? What is it revealing to me that I initially did not see?
  • If all my problems suddenly became opportunities, what new empowering decisions would I make today?

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miWisdom today… When people become obsessed with something to the extent that it overwhelms them emotionally, they naturally become disillusioned by their circumstances. This naturally effects the person’s decision making process to the extent that they are simply unable to comprehend the validity of their decisions in the moment. They are simply unable to logically understand the consequences of their decisions towards themselves, others and the world around them.

Acting only through emotion can lead to much anguish and disappointment in life. Our emotions can either make things appear light or dark, good or bad, right or wrong, yet they are only a perspective that we hold in the moment, a perspective that was influenced by something internal or external in our environment. If we fail to see our emotions for what they really are, than we will simply fail to make sense of the possible consequences of the decisions we are about to make.

It is important to note that our emotions are not our feelings. They are simply representations of one of many possible realities based on the array of emotions we experience at any time.

The next time you are feeling overwhelmed by your emotions for better or worse, you may find it helpful to ask yourself the following questions before making any hurried decisions:

  • Based on my current emotional state, what decision am I about to make?
  • Is this how reality is, or is it just a representation of the emotions I am experiencing at this very moment?
  • If I was to experience a contradictory emotion opposite to what I feel at the moment, how would I interpret this situation differently? Would I make a different decision?
  • Do I have the entire picture of the situation, or do my emotions filter out logical evidence to the contrary?
  • If I was to logically think about this situation from an outsiders perspective, what would I see? How would I interpret the people, circumstances and events?
  • What are the potential short and long-term consequences of the decision I am about to make?
  • What impact could this decision have on myself, others and the world around me?
  • The decision I am about to make may feel good, however is it in actuality good for me, and does it serve the greater good of all?
  • Does my original decision make sense given what I now know, or is there a better alternative?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… Sometimes the most obvious choice to make isn’t always the best option to take.

We are all very impulsive creatures. As such, we take many actions throughout our lives that have less than desirable outcomes. What appears to be the right thing to do in the moment may only appear to be so on the surface.

Think twice before making any impulsive decisions, especially if they involve those who are closest to you.

Our emotions are the ones that lead us astray in moments like these because they shape our reality with many shades of colours and perspectives, therefore making things appear to be somewhat different than what they really are. Yes, emotions are a wondrous yet dangerous experience, especially when it comes to our impulsive decisions which are purely based on the emotions we are feeling in the moment.

Next time you feel as though you are about to make an impulsive decision that just seems like the most obvious choice to make; step back, hold off for a moment, remove your emotions, and simply look back at the situation with unbiased clear eyes…

  • Is this a well thought through decision, or am I just being impulsive?
  • If all my emotions were to be removed from this situation, what is the best decision I could make?
  • If I was looking in on this situation from an outsider’s perspective, what would I see and what would be the most suitable decision given my circumstances?
  • If I was to look forward 1 week, 1 month, 1 year into the future and look back on this decision, would I be satisfied with the resulting outcomes, or is there a question-mark that my emotions are hiding from me?

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miWisdom today… Only a fool expects the world to remain the same and constant, and then bases their choices and decisions on what they already know. This type of thinking is entirely based on past experiences, based on that which has long gone and that might not apply to the present moment. You must instead be constantly vigilant to all the new information presented to you and the changing circumstances that life brings your way on a daily basis.

Every new choice, decision and action must be made in the moment based on what you know of the moment, and not what you knew of your past. If we do not take the time and make the effort to study, take into account and reflect on everything that has changed from yesterday, than we will simply fail to see the light of new opportunities that are coming our way.

Look at every piece of information, every person, every sound and sight that enters through your senses, and begin to understand that life isn’t what it used to be, it isn’t what it was, it is, and has rather changed, and what worked for you in the past may not result in your desired outcomes in the present.

People change… the World changes… and so do You. Your choices and decisions must change too.

  • Do I understand that people change, environments change and circumstances change? As such, my strategies should be adjusted accordingly.
  • Am I basing this decision on my past experience or rather on current information presented before me?
  • What is it about my present environment that could assist me in making the best decision here?

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miWisdom today… What looks like an opportunity on the surface to progress your life forward may in fact turn out to be a terrible mistake because of a simple yet noticeable oversight. One must therefore learn to always be extremely vigilant, to take into account all possibilities, and to develop the necessary foresight to make the right and best decision in the moment.

Life will always bring an endless array of opportunities our way each and every day (whether we notice them or not). On the surface every one of these opportunities will probably look very appetising. It is only when we look under the bonnet and ask ourselves the right kinds of questions that the demons will eventually reveal themselves. These demons are there to teach you lessons about where your life is headed. They are there to wake you up and show you that you may be on the wrong path, that you may be heading in the opposite direction, or that you may not as yet have asked the right questions that will lead you to the answers you seek.

In the end, opportunities whether filled with demons or angels are there to teach us great lessons about ourselves, and are therefore guiding posts to a better future if we take the time to learn and grow from each opportunity that comes our way.

  • What is it about this opportunity that could lead to undesirable results?
  • How can I see this opportunity in a different light?
  • Whose feedback and guidance can I draw from to help me make the best decision here?
  • Does this opportunity mean short-term loss for long-term gain? Or is it the other way around?
  • If I take on board this opportunity, what other doors of opportunity could it open for me? What doors could it also potentially close?
  • If I run with this opportunity, will it mean that I am limiting or expanding my options in the future?
  • Do the benefits of taking this opportunity on board outweigh the potential consequences?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… It is not usually the decisions or actions that people regret taking but rather the results of their actions and how these outcomes have impacted the people, events and circumstances of their lives.

On a deeper level of understanding you will find that people wholeheartedly support the decisions that they make and actions that they take. If the outcomes are satisfactory and to their liking they will feel secure in their decision and action making process. On the other hand, if their outcomes contradict what they expected, they will regret their decisions and actions. Yet it is not their decisions and actions that they are in actuality regretting but rather the outcomes of these decisions and actions.

  • What are all the possible consequences or outcomes of this decision that I am about to make?
  • How could my decision impact other people both directly and indirectly? What potential consequences could result?
  • How could my decision impact my life and circumstances? What potential consequences could result?
  • Is it the right time and place to make this decision or take this action, or will there be a better time in the future where the possible consequences are more in my favour?
  • Do I wholeheartedly support this decision and action no matter what consequences or outcomes may result? If so, than this is probably the right decision to make at this time?

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miWisdom today… One must always look beneath the surface of all events one encounters, being observant of strange oddities and other inconsistencies that are riddled with circumstance or people’s behaviour. By being aware, one will learn to understand life at a higher level, and will be better able to make more insightful decisions as one progresses along one’s journey.

  • Is this all there is, or is there something more here under the surface that cannot be easily spotted?
  • What is unusual about this that I hadn’t noticed before?

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