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miWisdom today… Learning and mastering a single process, task or skill can take time and a lot of concentrated effort. This is why it is so easy for us to doubt our own abilities when we have very little experience in a specific area. Some “things” naturally take a little more time to master than others, and this is where the problems lie.

Many of us see these “things” that we need to learn as big challenges that seem rather overwhelming and daunting. Yet, little do we realise that the only difference between a person who has mastered a skill or understood a process comes down to 2 common and critical factors:

  • Knowledge and
  • Experience

We acquire knowledge by seeking out information that we want to understand and potentially put into practice. And we acquire experience by applying that information in a practical and measurable way.

In essence, what stops people from moving forward in life simply comes down to either a lack of knowledge or experience, or a lack of both. Isn’t it true, that if we knew what to do and we already had the necessary experience behind us, that there would potentially be nothing stopping us from moving forward in this area of our lives?

Acquiring knowledge and experience is all one needs to increase one’s level of confidence and proficiency in a particular area. Begin step-by-step without overwhelming your comfort zone at first, and slowly but surely stretch yourself as you progress into the future. Focus primarily on acquiring a balance of knowledge and experience each day. Over time this will allow you to create momentum and move forward at a consistent pace.

Too much knowledge and too little experience will create a pleasant intellectual comfort zone, which will prevent you from moving forward. While on the other-hand, too much experience and not enough knowledge will result in many mistakes and frustrations, therefore leading to many setbacks and potential losses in time, energy and money.

If you find yourself stuck and procrastinating within a specific niche area of your life, than find the time to ask yourself the following questions which may help you gain some clarity:

  • What is really stopping me from moving forward in this area of my life?
  • Is it my lack of knowledge, experience, or is it both that are preventing me from moving forward?
  • Where is it that I lack knowledge and understanding?
  • How can I best acquire this knowledge and understanding?
  • Where is it that I lack first hand experience?
  • How can I go about acquiring this first hand experience? Can I apprentice to someone?
  • What small steps can I take today to acquire some further knowledge and understanding in this area?
  • What small steps can I take today to gain a little first hand experience in this area?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… One mustn’t reveal what one has learnt or discovered about another person if one is still uncertain about this person’s motives and intentions. Instead, one must buy more time and act as though one is not aware of this new found information.

First, take your time to really get to know this person in a variety of different situations and environments. When people are not under stress or difficulty they can easily deceive and convince others of their deceptive ways. However, put them into a situation where they are pulled outside of their comfort zone, or thrown into an environment that isn’t familiar to them; and this person’s true colours may well come to the forefront.

  • How best can I take this person out of their comfort zone?
  • What environment could potentially bring out their true colours?
  • How are they different within this new environment or situation?
  • How are they different under these awkward and stressful situations?
  • Does this difference in behaviour provide me any clues as to their true intentions and character?

Secondly, you can pick up subtle details and critical information about other people by observing how they interact with others within their social circle and outside of it.

  • What does this person say, and how do they behave in the presence of others?
  • Do they act any differently in the presence of these people than they do with me?
  • Does this person talk about others behind their back?
  • Do they speak kind words of others, or do their words put people down?
  • What intention do they have while speaking these words? What impression do they seek to make on me?
  • What do others say about this person?
  • How do others speak about them? (tone of voice, sarcasm, etc)
  • What general impressions do people have of this person? Both new acquaintances and old friends?
  • What does all of this tell me about this person’s motives, intentions and character?
  • So the question remains… Should I trust them or should I not?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… One’s predicaments do not last forever. It ain’t over till you raise the white flag… until that moment you must fight for all you have till the outcome you seek rests securely in your hands.

Many people start feeling sorry for themselves and they have a tendency to become frustrated and disheartened with the circumstances that life throws their way. Without a network of supportive family and friends, they see little hope and begin to wilt away into the abyss of unfulfilled dreams that have been drained of life and sustenance. Little do they realise that they are just moving through a phase, a challenge of sorts that is teaching them lessons, developing within them habits and beliefs that will eventually allow them to deserve to live a life filled with only their dreams and desires. However, unless we learn from these challenges and adapt to what life throws at us, we will indeed struggle, yo-yoing back and forth from despair to experiences of minor fragments of achievement.

  • What is it exactly that I am currently struggling with?
  • What is life trying to teach me through these experiences?
  • What must I do, and how must I adapt for me to continue to progress along this journey?
  • What new habits and beliefs must I begin adopting into my life in order to make this work?
  • Where can I get further support and assistance with these challenges?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… One must be prepared to do the unexpected at any moment in time in order to get ahead and stay ahead in this world. Whether this means stepping out of one’s comfort zone and overcoming a fear, or it could just be learning to master a new skill for the first time.  Either way, one must be prepared, willing and able to step forward, adapt and do what is required in the moment, otherwise one will struggle to move forward in life to any measurable degree.

  • What possible unexpected events or circumstances could lay on the horizon for me?
  • How can I best prepare myself to deal with them as they arise?
  • What new skills must I master over the coming months to prepare me for the possible challenges that lie ahead?
  • How will I go about obtaining and learning these new skills?
  • Who could assist me with knowledge or mentor me in this area?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… Everyone enjoys being surprised, as long as you don’t pull them out of their comfort zone and put them in a situation where they do something that goes against their nature. People however don’t enjoy being surprised when they have another agenda on their mind. In such instances, surprises can just get in the way of their daily activities leading to an inconvenient distraction despite other people’s best intentions.

  • Have I taken into account this person’s schedule and daily activities when planning this surprise for them?
  • Am I thinking about them or do I have my own personal agenda in mind?
  • How will this person react to the surprise? Will it make them feel comfortable or uncomfortable?
  • Is this the right method to use given what I know about this person?

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miWisdom today… If fate has a tendency to put you into inconvenient and uncomfortable situations, you must make a stand, look it straight in the eye, and challenge it head on. Life brings us certain people, events and circumstances in order to challenge us emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. If we avoid these challenges and attempt to resign to our fate, we will never learn, and therefore fate will come back to visit us all over again until the day we learn to overcome these challenges successfully.

  • What challenges do I face in my daily life that tend to reappear on a constant and consistent basis?
  • Do I tackle these challenges head on, or do I tend to avoid them out of fear or insecurity?
  • What can I learn from the times I tended to avoid these challenges?
  • What will I do next time a challenge of this nature forces me into a corner?
  • Do I understand that doing the same thing will almost always get me the same result?

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miWisdom today… When the chips are down and bad luck befalls people, they have a tendency to feel sorry for themselves. They wilt away into their comfort zones and everything begins to take on insurmountable proportions making reality look a lot more disheartening than it actually is.

  • Is this how reality is, or is it my perception of reality based on my current emotional state?
  • What would an outsider’s perception be of my reality? How different would they see it?
  • Do I understand that I am not helping myself by wilting away into my comfort zone?
  • What can I do in the moment to move me a very small step closer towards righting the wrongs?

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