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miWisdom today… When people become obsessed with something to the extent that it overwhelms them emotionally, they naturally become disillusioned by their circumstances. This naturally effects the person’s decision making process to the extent that they are simply unable to comprehend the validity of their decisions in the moment. They are simply unable to logically understand the consequences of their decisions towards themselves, others and the world around them.

Acting only through emotion can lead to much anguish and disappointment in life. Our emotions can either make things appear light or dark, good or bad, right or wrong, yet they are only a perspective that we hold in the moment, a perspective that was influenced by something internal or external in our environment. If we fail to see our emotions for what they really are, than we will simply fail to make sense of the possible consequences of the decisions we are about to make.

It is important to note that our emotions are not our feelings. They are simply representations of one of many possible realities based on the array of emotions we experience at any time.

The next time you are feeling overwhelmed by your emotions for better or worse, you may find it helpful to ask yourself the following questions before making any hurried decisions:

  • Based on my current emotional state, what decision am I about to make?
  • Is this how reality is, or is it just a representation of the emotions I am experiencing at this very moment?
  • If I was to experience a contradictory emotion opposite to what I feel at the moment, how would I interpret this situation differently? Would I make a different decision?
  • Do I have the entire picture of the situation, or do my emotions filter out logical evidence to the contrary?
  • If I was to logically think about this situation from an outsiders perspective, what would I see? How would I interpret the people, circumstances and events?
  • What are the potential short and long-term consequences of the decision I am about to make?
  • What impact could this decision have on myself, others and the world around me?
  • The decision I am about to make may feel good, however is it in actuality good for me, and does it serve the greater good of all?
  • Does my original decision make sense given what I now know, or is there a better alternative?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… One mustn’t reveal what one has learnt or discovered about another person if one is still uncertain about this person’s motives and intentions. Instead, one must buy more time and act as though one is not aware of this new found information.

First, take your time to really get to know this person in a variety of different situations and environments. When people are not under stress or difficulty they can easily deceive and convince others of their deceptive ways. However, put them into a situation where they are pulled outside of their comfort zone, or thrown into an environment that isn’t familiar to them; and this person’s true colours may well come to the forefront.

  • How best can I take this person out of their comfort zone?
  • What environment could potentially bring out their true colours?
  • How are they different within this new environment or situation?
  • How are they different under these awkward and stressful situations?
  • Does this difference in behaviour provide me any clues as to their true intentions and character?

Secondly, you can pick up subtle details and critical information about other people by observing how they interact with others within their social circle and outside of it.

  • What does this person say, and how do they behave in the presence of others?
  • Do they act any differently in the presence of these people than they do with me?
  • Does this person talk about others behind their back?
  • Do they speak kind words of others, or do their words put people down?
  • What intention do they have while speaking these words? What impression do they seek to make on me?
  • What do others say about this person?
  • How do others speak about them? (tone of voice, sarcasm, etc)
  • What general impressions do people have of this person? Both new acquaintances and old friends?
  • What does all of this tell me about this person’s motives, intentions and character?
  • So the question remains… Should I trust them or should I not?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… Only a fool expects the world to remain the same and constant, and then bases their choices and decisions on what they already know. This type of thinking is entirely based on past experiences, based on that which has long gone and that might not apply to the present moment. You must instead be constantly vigilant to all the new information presented to you and the changing circumstances that life brings your way on a daily basis.

Every new choice, decision and action must be made in the moment based on what you know of the moment, and not what you knew of your past. If we do not take the time and make the effort to study, take into account and reflect on everything that has changed from yesterday, than we will simply fail to see the light of new opportunities that are coming our way.

Look at every piece of information, every person, every sound and sight that enters through your senses, and begin to understand that life isn’t what it used to be, it isn’t what it was, it is, and has rather changed, and what worked for you in the past may not result in your desired outcomes in the present.

People change… the World changes… and so do You. Your choices and decisions must change too.

  • Do I understand that people change, environments change and circumstances change? As such, my strategies should be adjusted accordingly.
  • Am I basing this decision on my past experience or rather on current information presented before me?
  • What is it about my present environment that could assist me in making the best decision here?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… Everyone enjoys being surprised, as long as you don’t pull them out of their comfort zone and put them in a situation where they do something that goes against their nature. People however don’t enjoy being surprised when they have another agenda on their mind. In such instances, surprises can just get in the way of their daily activities leading to an inconvenient distraction despite other people’s best intentions.

  • Have I taken into account this person’s schedule and daily activities when planning this surprise for them?
  • Am I thinking about them or do I have my own personal agenda in mind?
  • How will this person react to the surprise? Will it make them feel comfortable or uncomfortable?
  • Is this the right method to use given what I know about this person?

If you have a similar learning experience or would like to add to the list of questions, you may do so by commenting below.

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miWisdom today… One must always look beneath the surface of all events one encounters, being observant of strange oddities and other inconsistencies that are riddled with circumstance or people’s behaviour. By being aware, one will learn to understand life at a higher level, and will be better able to make more insightful decisions as one progresses along one’s journey.

  • Is this all there is, or is there something more here under the surface that cannot be easily spotted?
  • What is unusual about this that I hadn’t noticed before?

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miWisdom today… It was actually the small decisions, those that you didn’t really reflect upon, those that seemed insignificant at the time, those that you felt had very little meaning… Yes it was those small decisions that you made a long, long time ago that are manifesting in your life today.

  • In what way have the small decisions of my past impacted my life today in both a positive and negative way?
  • In what ways can I learn from my past decisions?
  • What small and seemingly insignificant decisions have I made today?
  • What possible consequences could these decisions have on my future in unexpected ways?

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miWisdom today… People can be incredibly inconsiderate of others when they are too absorbed in their own life, problems, work and agenda. Even with the best of intentions, during these moments they may hurt their relationships with others unintentionally not even thinking twice about their decisions or actions. Soon they will wake up and observe their behaviour in the reflections of those closest to them. However, will it be too late to mend what is now broken?

  • At this moment, am I thinking about ME or WE?
  • What is the best way to show others that I care for them without losing focus on my tasks or objectives?

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